There is something that BOTHERS and IRRITATES me in some of the Ammanite Women; especially the well achieved, smart ones. Who worked hard and actually managed to make it. I mean behind it all I do admire them and that they made it against all the odds… but there is a problem; many of them are bitches! Truly bitches, they work against each other, backstab each other and compete at every level.  As long as no one is better and as long as none of them surfaces higher than the others then everything is ok.  This phenomenon becomes worse when there are younger women in the picture. The typical attitude being ‘Banat akher Zaman think that they can come to our level!’ which translates to the girls of these days think they can come up to our level.

However the phenomenon is seen at all age groups in Amman. Fierce competition, insecurity, especially if they are unmarried, and I am not sure whether marriage has anything to do with it.  Obviously not all of the women are like that… but a lot are!

The thing is women in our society have puzzling attitudes; most women highly value female approval and friendship, relying upon each other for support and understanding. However there is also mistrust, dislike, and cruelty toward each other. We judge each other harshly, hold grudges, and gossip about each other very bitchily.

Let’s look into this scenario. Let’s ask any man to describe a woman. Men will usually make global statements. She’s tall. Pretty. Funny-looking. Women, on the other hand, dissect their subject into tiny fragments: “She’s got beautifully big eyes, but she wears way too much mascara, and her left eye is few micro-nano-millimeters bigger than her right one, but that is not as bad as my nose…..” well if that is not competition, then I don’t know what is?!
 

As some people know, I love the cave man analogy.  I first became fascinated with this cave man thing, when listening to a mathematician. He is  virtually one of the smartest people I know, and he was trying to explain to a common friend why her new born baby had a reflex actions as if he was going to fall down… he related that to the  human- monkey theory, and how when we were monkeys, we fell  from trees! The mother was offended that her cute son was in the same sentence with a monkey, and I thought that this was about the funniest thing I heard at that time of my life, most probably because of the personalities of these people Anyway…moving on swiftly….. Based on this analogy, competition between women is a survival instinct that developed at a very early stage. Women developed jealous feelings from other females to protect the male. Defending the male ensures that the mate stays around to help defend the offspring, and provide meat for the family. Also, it could be explained by natural selection. If a caveman is strong; his children will have a better chance in life. So feeling jealous of the “short skirt bimbo” may be the way of trying to catch the best male, and then keep him, so that the genes live on.

Shall I mention the incidents that triggered all this? Better not, as my grandmother says too many words won’t take nor bring back….I will go watch coast on BBC4… for some odd reason I find the presenter to be very attractive… could it be his long hair?  I wonder…