Comments on: ليش اختفت الشهامه http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2010/06/15/%d9%84%d9%8a%d8%b4-%d8%a7%d8%ae%d8%aa%d9%81%d8%aa-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%b4%d9%87%d8%a7%d9%85%d9%87/ Casting the first stone Wed, 08 Feb 2012 14:19:00 +0200 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Led Zeppelin http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2010/06/15/%d9%84%d9%8a%d8%b4-%d8%a7%d8%ae%d8%aa%d9%81%d8%aa-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%b4%d9%87%d8%a7%d9%85%d9%87/comment-page-1/#comment-221484 Led Zeppelin Wed, 16 Jun 2010 13:54:25 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=1346#comment-221484 it is still out there, but it all comes down to self confidence AND the delivery of chivalry. when I offer help, I wait for nothing in return not even a thank you, I have confidence in my actions and whether the woman has insecurities regarding it or not is her problem..I just smile and keep going. the way I deliver chivalry,must show "professionalism" not cheesy or showing excitement and happiness to help the woman, confidence and a serious voice tone of offering help usually clears out any doubt from the woman, I don't blame the women because as soon as they step on the street they must act defensive,too many vultures out there. I have personally used chivalry methods to start a non-threatening conversation with women I do not know,ending up with their phone numbers, yes it is an abuse of chivalry for personal gains, but since it is delivered correctly there is nothing wrong with it. let me also stress that chivalry is one of the characteristics of a true gentleman, that when put into action it can melt any woman's heart even if she doesn't clearly show or if one would think otherwise. it is still out there, but it all comes down to self confidence AND the delivery of chivalry.

when I offer help, I wait for nothing in return not even a thank you, I have confidence in my actions and whether the woman has insecurities regarding it or not is her problem..I just smile and keep going.

the way I deliver chivalry,must show “professionalism” not cheesy or showing excitement and happiness to help the woman, confidence and a serious voice tone of offering help usually clears out any doubt from the woman, I don’t blame the women because as soon as they step on the street they must act defensive,too many vultures out there.

I have personally used chivalry methods to start a non-threatening conversation with women I do not know,ending up with their phone numbers, yes it is an abuse of chivalry for personal gains, but since it is delivered correctly there is nothing wrong with it.

let me also stress that chivalry is one of the characteristics of a true gentleman, that when put into action it can melt any woman’s heart even if she doesn’t clearly show or if one would think otherwise.

]]> By: Saed http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2010/06/15/%d9%84%d9%8a%d8%b4-%d8%a7%d8%ae%d8%aa%d9%81%d8%aa-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%b4%d9%87%d8%a7%d9%85%d9%87/comment-page-1/#comment-221483 Saed Wed, 16 Jun 2010 06:35:52 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=1346#comment-221483 Oh and for some reason, ANYONE would let a foreigner help them, but not a local person. That's interesting and shameful at the same time. Oh and for some reason, ANYONE would let a foreigner help them, but not a local person. That’s interesting and shameful at the same time.

]]> By: Saed http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2010/06/15/%d9%84%d9%8a%d8%b4-%d8%a7%d8%ae%d8%aa%d9%81%d8%aa-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%b4%d9%87%d8%a7%d9%85%d9%87/comment-page-1/#comment-221482 Saed Wed, 16 Jun 2010 06:34:10 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=1346#comment-221482 I used to be a "gentleman" but I stopped doing that stuff. Well I still help anyone who needs help if I can, and a lot of people are like that, but some things are just really off in our society now. I don't really stand up when someone walks into a room because I don't see it has a point, unless it's someone older than me. And I do hold doors open to people just not in public spaces, just in my building and for someone I know, because nobody else is considerate enough to actually hold the door in a public place for people behind me, but they rather just ignore me and keep going in and they'd be thinking (maalo haad shoof hal ahbal shoof). /sarcasm Because anyone (OBVIOUSLY) knows that opening doors is just for idiots, no we don't need to respect eachother at all. /endsarcasm "معظم الرجال اللي تحدثت معهم هذا الاسبوع اتفقوا على أنه الرجولة اختفت لحد ما. بس الشي المحزن هوانه نحنا “السيدات” اللي قتلناه" I agree, it's has decreased, people are too scared to let anyone help them, and are not very approachable. And a lot of people would teach their kids "shoo da5alna feehom?" ethics indirectly, which also has an effect. I used to be a “gentleman” but I stopped doing that stuff. Well I still help anyone who needs help if I can, and a lot of people are like that, but some things are just really off in our society now. I don’t really stand up when someone walks into a room because I don’t see it has a point, unless it’s someone older than me. And I do hold doors open to people just not in public spaces, just in my building and for someone I know, because nobody else is considerate enough to actually hold the door in a public place for people behind me, but they rather just ignore me and keep going in and they’d be thinking (maalo haad shoof hal ahbal shoof).

/sarcasm
Because anyone (OBVIOUSLY) knows that opening doors is just for idiots, no we don’t need to respect eachother at all.
/endsarcasm

“معظم الرجال اللي تحدثت معهم هذا الاسبوع اتفقوا على أنه الرجولة اختفت لحد ما. بس الشي المحزن هوانه نحنا “السيدات” اللي قتلناه”

I agree, it’s has decreased, people are too scared to let anyone help them, and are not very approachable. And a lot of people would teach their kids “shoo da5alna feehom?” ethics indirectly, which also has an effect.

]]> By: Rula A. http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2010/06/15/%d9%84%d9%8a%d8%b4-%d8%a7%d8%ae%d8%aa%d9%81%d8%aa-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%b4%d9%87%d8%a7%d9%85%d9%87/comment-page-1/#comment-221479 Rula A. Tue, 15 Jun 2010 21:10:32 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=1346#comment-221479 ادراج جميل كالعاده.. انا بفتره من حياتي عشت في كندا.. هداك اليوم وانا بلعب رياضه بالنادي اجت وحده مبين انها مش عربيه.. حسيتها محتاره وضايعه شوي اصلها كانت عم تنتقل من جهاز رياضي لجهار تاني من دون ما تكمل دقيقتين على كل واحد.. سالتها ازا بتحب اناديلها حد من المدربات.. ابتسمتلي وشكرتني وقالت انها عم تجرب وتدرب على كل جهاز.. ممكن لو حد تاني ما كان سالها عشان كان راح ياخد بعين الاعتبار انو اكيد في ببالها اشي او انو ما بتحب حد يقاطع وقتها الي بتمضي بالنادي.. ممكن اتو الرجل العربي ما يعرض خدماتو.. بس لو وحده اطلعت عليه وقالتلو ممكن اتساعدني اظن انو راح يتجاوب عطول.. ادراج جميل كالعاده.. انا بفتره من حياتي عشت في كندا.. هداك اليوم وانا بلعب رياضه بالنادي اجت وحده مبين انها مش عربيه.. حسيتها محتاره وضايعه شوي اصلها كانت عم تنتقل من جهاز رياضي لجهار تاني من دون ما تكمل دقيقتين على كل واحد.. سالتها ازا بتحب اناديلها حد من المدربات.. ابتسمتلي وشكرتني وقالت انها عم تجرب وتدرب على كل جهاز..
ممكن لو حد تاني ما كان سالها عشان كان راح ياخد بعين الاعتبار انو اكيد في ببالها اشي او انو ما بتحب حد يقاطع وقتها الي بتمضي بالنادي..

ممكن اتو الرجل العربي ما يعرض خدماتو.. بس لو وحده اطلعت عليه وقالتلو ممكن اتساعدني اظن انو راح يتجاوب عطول..

]]> By: jaraad http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2010/06/15/%d9%84%d9%8a%d8%b4-%d8%a7%d8%ae%d8%aa%d9%81%d8%aa-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%b4%d9%87%d8%a7%d9%85%d9%87/comment-page-1/#comment-221478 jaraad Tue, 15 Jun 2010 16:38:08 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=1346#comment-221478 الموضوع جميل جدا. وانا بتفق انه كثير من الشباب ما بساعد خوفا من ردة فعل البنات أو السيدات اللي فعلا في بعض الأحيان بتكون خارج عن أصول التعامل الحضاري. أنا متأكد لو أنه السيدات اللي ما بحبوا مساعده ردوا "شكرا. ما بحتاج مساعده." كان شفنا شباب ساعدوا السيده بعربة ابنها بدل من الشباب الأجانب.ـ بس للأسف برضوا السيدات بخافوا من نوايا الشباب انها تكون ليس فقط لمجرد المساعده وبذلك بكونوا حذرين في قبول المساعده.بس لازم انه الواحد ما يعمم ويفترض دائما الخير في الشخص الآخر حتى يثبت غير ذلك.ـ الموضوع جميل جدا. وانا بتفق انه كثير من الشباب ما بساعد خوفا من ردة فعل البنات أو السيدات اللي فعلا في بعض الأحيان بتكون خارج عن أصول التعامل الحضاري. أنا متأكد لو أنه السيدات اللي ما بحبوا مساعده ردوا “شكرا. ما بحتاج مساعده.” كان شفنا شباب ساعدوا السيده بعربة ابنها بدل من الشباب الأجانب.ـ
بس للأسف برضوا السيدات بخافوا من نوايا الشباب انها تكون ليس فقط لمجرد المساعده وبذلك بكونوا حذرين في قبول المساعده.بس لازم انه الواحد ما يعمم ويفترض دائما الخير في الشخص الآخر حتى يثبت غير ذلك.ـ

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