Comments on: Unlived adolescence in Jordan http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2009/11/10/unlived-adolescence-in-jordan/ Casting the first stone Wed, 08 Feb 2012 14:19:00 +0200 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: chaussures air http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2009/11/10/unlived-adolescence-in-jordan/comment-page-1/#comment-222695 chaussures air Wed, 31 Aug 2011 20:27:24 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=965#comment-222695 Regards for the fine writeup. It in truth was a leisure account it. Appearance advanced to extra added agreeable via you! By how, how could we communicate? Regards for the fine writeup. It in truth was a leisure account it. Appearance advanced to extra added agreeable via you! By how, how could we communicate?

]]> By: Madas http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2009/11/10/unlived-adolescence-in-jordan/comment-page-1/#comment-220727 Madas Sat, 05 Dec 2009 20:06:32 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=965#comment-220727 you could not have put it any better! seriously... I agree with everything you said here. We do lack maturity... I see that is every thing we do... Welcome to my blog by the way :) you could not have put it any better! seriously… I agree with everything you said here. We do lack maturity… I see that is every thing we do…

Welcome to my blog by the way :)

]]> By: P http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2009/11/10/unlived-adolescence-in-jordan/comment-page-1/#comment-220726 P Sat, 05 Dec 2009 19:30:40 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=965#comment-220726 What a great post! I think that that touches on a fundamental problem in our society. I agree with you, self-expression - which takes many forms, such as fashion, music, lifestyle, sexuality, social freedom - is vital for our development and progression as human beings. Sadly, I wish this phenomenon was restricted to 30-something Jordanians making out in cars. It extends to the way we conduct ourselves in society, the way we talk, the political and economic discourse. If you take a look at Jordan, and the Arab world in general, we generally lack a level of maturity that is necessary to development. A lot of us have been sheltered, or shushed throughout our children and adolescence, and therefore, this results in a failure to reach the intellectual, mental, economical, social and emotional maturity that is essential to thrive in society. What a great post! I think that that touches on a fundamental problem in our society.

I agree with you, self-expression – which takes many forms, such as fashion, music, lifestyle, sexuality, social freedom – is vital for our development and progression as human beings.

Sadly, I wish this phenomenon was restricted to 30-something Jordanians making out in cars. It extends to the way we conduct ourselves in society, the way we talk, the political and economic discourse. If you take a look at Jordan, and the Arab world in general, we generally lack a level of maturity that is necessary to development.

A lot of us have been sheltered, or shushed throughout our children and adolescence, and therefore, this results in a failure to reach the intellectual, mental, economical, social and emotional maturity that is essential to thrive in society.

]]> By: Madas http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2009/11/10/unlived-adolescence-in-jordan/comment-page-1/#comment-220707 Madas Mon, 30 Nov 2009 05:52:50 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=965#comment-220707 Possibly :) Although, it really is not fashinable at all here in Jordan after the age of 11. Actually these days after the age of 8 or 9. Little girls are so eager to grow up here, that they throw away anything that has to do with childhood. The thing is I noticed girls (from certain backgrounds) here act younger than they really are. A girl in her early 20's would act like a girl in her teens... I think it is because they are over protected and under exposed, the education system does not help... Possibly :)

Although, it really is not fashinable at all here in Jordan after the age of 11. Actually these days after the age of 8 or 9. Little girls are so eager to grow up here, that they throw away anything that has to do with childhood. The thing is I noticed girls (from certain backgrounds) here act younger than they really are. A girl in her early 20’s would act like a girl in her teens… I think it is because they are over protected and under exposed, the education system does not help…

]]> By: Marj http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2009/11/10/unlived-adolescence-in-jordan/comment-page-1/#comment-220706 Marj Sun, 29 Nov 2009 04:41:08 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=965#comment-220706 Your posting on what you witnessed during one of your "women empowerment" classes or whatever I think has less do with unfulfilled childish desires and probably more to do with their educational level. Or perhaps the enjoyment of those thing we consider to be immature or just for kids could be a cultural issue, much like how in Chinese culture there is a "celebration" on what we consider to be childish traits -they just revel in it...from adult women dressing in ponytails and girlish frock, the display of stuffed animals in their houses and cars, the pouting and mini-temper tantrums they have with their friends- I mean in the west we would think is strange, but a lot of people from that part of the world get it and consider it a fashion and these are women from educated families so this is truly a fashion for them. Your posting on what you witnessed during one of your “women empowerment” classes or whatever I think has less do with unfulfilled childish desires and probably more to do with their educational level. Or perhaps the enjoyment of those thing we consider to be immature or just for kids could be a cultural issue, much like how in Chinese culture there is a “celebration” on what we consider to be childish traits -they just revel in it…from adult women dressing in ponytails and girlish frock, the display of stuffed animals in their houses and cars, the pouting and mini-temper tantrums they have with their friends- I mean in the west we would think is strange, but a lot of people from that part of the world get it and consider it a fashion and these are women from educated families so this is truly a fashion for them.

]]> By: madas http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2009/11/10/unlived-adolescence-in-jordan/comment-page-1/#comment-220678 madas Sat, 14 Nov 2009 19:00:36 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=965#comment-220678 Thank you for your comment...it is always nice to hear from you... Why not write it as a co-author with me? write about how dating happenes in Amman...you already did half of the work... will get a few people to write as well about it :) Thank you for your comment…it is always nice to hear from you…

Why not write it as a co-author with me? write about how dating happenes in Amman…you already did half of the work… will get a few people to write as well about it :)

]]> By: Led Zeppelin http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2009/11/10/unlived-adolescence-in-jordan/comment-page-1/#comment-220677 Led Zeppelin Sat, 14 Nov 2009 18:27:23 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=965#comment-220677 There is nothing innocent of a man n a woman making out in a car..inno they didn't get that out of their system when they were younger?? well lady I got news for u...ur naive! ppl make out at all ages! and the sexual drive System doesn't shut down when you are hitting early 30s nor ages above! at least I hope it doesn't... I'm not sure what to say about the women with stars and stickers,but I see it as a more of lack of professional conduct than unresolved girly feelings of childhood..I don't see it relating to their relationship life other than being..hobol..stupid that is and easy to seduce ou to yenda7ak 3alaihom..but I feel these particular women need more in depth analysis of their situation,because of their environment and how the society treats them growing up..and you're the woman for that job madas! When it comes to dating,there are certain rules, society standards that we all grow up in..you can not bypass these and just say,well let all teens experiment and get things out of their system, we wouldn't be in Jordan if that happened.. The acts of laflafeh bil car,to going out 3a ma7alat and clubs to some ppl making out in a car or room, are all ways to Adapt to those society rules we live in..men and women contribute equally and directly in those acts seeking each others's attention...and yes you are correct on location of making out,unless they want to make out in one of their parent's home "bil saloon!" ..or at a hotel,which is usually a big No No and gives a woman a mental state of being a slut..then the car it is..in some remote location,where they are highly risking their security..it is not a game if they get jumped on by some ruthless ppl or even the cops!..from my perspective I say,what happened to just holding hands and driving around,being happy with what u got? yeah I may be naive myself here saying this but at least that way no safety nor dignity would be jeopardized. Finally..I'm not sure what you mean by features of dating scene question..but if I can contribute to that post,count me in..you can test it on me over coffee ;) There is nothing innocent of a man n a woman making out in a car..inno they didn’t get that out of their system when they were younger?? well lady I got news for u…ur naive! ppl make out at all ages! and the sexual drive System doesn’t shut down when you are hitting early 30s nor ages above! at least I hope it doesn’t…

I’m not sure what to say about the women with stars and stickers,but I see it as a more of lack of professional conduct than unresolved girly feelings of childhood..I don’t see it relating to their relationship life other than being..hobol..stupid that is and easy to seduce ou to yenda7ak 3alaihom..but I feel these particular women need more in depth analysis of their situation,because of their environment and how the society treats them growing up..and you’re the woman for that job madas!

When it comes to dating,there are certain rules, society standards that we all grow up in..you can not bypass these and just say,well let all teens experiment and get things out of their system, we wouldn’t be in Jordan if that happened..
The acts of laflafeh bil car,to going out 3a ma7alat and clubs to some ppl making out in a car or room, are all ways to Adapt to those society rules we live in..men and women contribute equally and directly in those acts seeking each others’s attention…and yes you are correct on location of making out,unless they want to make out in one of their parent’s home “bil saloon!” ..or at a hotel,which is usually a big No No and gives a woman a mental state of being a slut..then the car it is..in some remote location,where they are highly risking their security..it is not a game if they get jumped on by some ruthless ppl or even the cops!..from my perspective I say,what happened to just holding hands and driving around,being happy with what u got? yeah I may be naive myself here saying this but at least that way no safety nor dignity would be jeopardized.

Finally..I’m not sure what you mean by features of dating scene question..but if I can contribute to that post,count me in..you can test it on me over coffee ;)

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