Comments on: Manhood, emotional desertification and public display of emotions!

By: Anna Allen

Anna Allen — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 01:50:40 +0000

the cast of Gilmore Girls are very pretty, i wish i could marry one of them..*-

By: madas

madas — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 17:41:01 +0000

yeah true… every single one is pretty

By: Layla Cook

Layla Cook — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 07:39:02 +0000

every girl on Gilmore Girls is pretty. i kind of admire them and have a great crush.;:*

By: Madas

Madas — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 14:16:09 +0000

here is my email…mariamadas@yahoo.com i would ove to read the article… thanks you

By: Deena

Deena — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 22:57:21 +0000

if ur interested in the topic i have an academic anthropological article on dating in Irbid that i haven’t read yet, but will be more than happy to send over. let me know, i couldn’t find ur email anywhere

By: Madas

Madas — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 08:05:22 +0000

What you are describing here is probably true… I will pick on one point people marrying for the wrong reasons (?) i am not sure what the right reasons are anymore… i mean in the west people marry for love, but the divorce rate is still very high… this maks me question my own ideas about the right reasons… but for the sake argument.. i do think that marrying a man because his family name or the size of his bank account does not work! and marrying a woman for her beauty or her family name also does not work… first of all.. economic status is very volatile as we know, and beauty is dealth with by time! the point is yu can’t bring emotions into an emotionless equation.. in this case a marriage… if people are married with the money then their emotions are for the money and not for the person… and if men marry for beauty, they they their emotions are for makup and fancy clothing and not for the person…

By: Deena

Deena — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 10:32:52 +0000

We once went to pick my Dad up from the airport, he had been away for over a week, and when he arrived he gave my mom a quick kiss, and the entire Queen Alia airport turned to look around at a husband pecking his wife – and from the look on their faces it seemed to me they had never seen any [married] couple kiss in their lives (and it wasn’t really a kiss!).
I don’t think it is the focus on survival – people can be very ‘poor’ [economically] and still very passionate. Also, we once had a conversation @ school and a lot of my ‘upper-middle and high class’ friends had never seen their own parents kiss. never. It is very sad really. To be this disconnected with our feelings , with our own bodies.
It’s not just that we live in an anti-love culture, but a loveless culture… we teach our daughters to marry for circumstance, and our sons to marry for beauty and looks…. and we tell them love is the ‘3shra’ of living with someone for long. We teach our children to get straight A’s so we can brag about them, rather than teach them passion for knowledge.
So I think this vacume of emotions in our lives leads those who yearn for love, like the young gentleman in ur story, to understand it in terms of over the top grand gestures, and exaggerated sentimentality (just like noor and muhannad too!)…. but in the process, the simple blissfulness of holding hands or a kiss gets lost.