Why do men check out different women? should Carla Bruni and Michelle Obama be jealous?
Mel complained last week at how jealous her Boyfriend makes her feel… she feels hurt when he devotes his time and attention to someone else, but what she hates most is when he stares at other women…A couple of years ago, I would have had one opinion regarding this conversation:
He is an A-hole. He does not respect you, leave him!
Now, my opinion has changed dramatically… it has become:
Where is your self confidence?
Elsa on the other hand used to hate it when her partner (ex-husband now…) used to check women out, especially when they were out and she was with him. This was always the base for an argument… she told him repeatedly that it made her feel uncomfortable, she felt it was not respectful of her as a women… his standard answer was a cold “it meant nothing”
Her mother used to tell her that being upset was not about him staring but it was about being insecure in her relationship…. which obviously she was not… and rightly so, since he ended up cheating on her…
Today, when she is with her boyfriend, she truly does not mind if he checks someone out,… which he seldom does, … and when he does, it is done discreetly and respectfully. Actually, it is ironic, that she would point out that a girl is cute…… what would he do in this case? He does nothing…. absolutely nothing… he might mumble something funny and move on.
So I guess her mother’s comment was right after all…. It really is not about who does what… it is about trust… if you trust the person, if you are secure about the person you are with… checking out other people is fine. The point is both men and women look every now and then… it is no big deal, but what is not normal is for people to stare and comment EVERY time some member of the opposite sex walks in a room. Which really was the case with Elsa’s husband, it used to make all of her friends uncomfortable… he would scan any woman’s body rudely…it was disgusting!
Why do men check out women?
I really don’t want to provide excuses for Arab men…they get away with too much as it is…. but let’s look into evolution here. We need to remember that even though we moved from the caves into modern buildings around Jordan… and we started eating cooked mansaf around tables in different Jordanians cities and villages instead of eating raw meet around the fire in the caves, we still share DNA with animals.
We should never forget that the aim of the human race is to spread DNA for the survival of the race! A guy, having to do little work to give birth to a kid, would be more likely to pass on his DNA if he mated with several women… Is this all? Well of course not. There are other reasons as well.. For example the fact that society celebrates men’s behaviours… I mean it is completely ok for a man to look around, but it would be viewed as completely unnatural and maybe a little sick for a woman to do the same…
I would also imagine that it is because the way women react to it… A friend used to let her husband know how cute the waiter is whenever she caught him looking at other women… she would tip these handsome waiters handsomely, and the sting of spending unnecessary money was enough to teach the husband not to look when she is around!
She still tips people handsomely every now and then, after 13 years of marriage!
Can you think of other reasons why men look at other women??
I wonder who would get upset by this video… Michelle Obama or Carla Bruni?
Man, how media changes everything. The video is so funny. Carla should be very upset.
On the other hand men also look because they are built to think about sex all the time. I read somewhere they think about sex every 7 seconds or something like that. So they look at women because each woman is a potential sexual partners.
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As you just said, both men and women look, its pure instinct..to survive and replicate.
When it comes to checking out women,there are rules of conduct..you gotta make sure your woman never notice,you don’t stare or look directly, you just take a random glimpse of the sexy women in the summer dress on the table next to you,and at all times avoid eye contact..they can tell instantly!
Now you gotta understand the process of checking out..it is not the actual site that makes you admire the beauty of that woman..it’s the glimpse that you just took or can notice through the corner of your eye which is transformed into an image,enhanced,modified,and magnified..all that while you are looking at your woman..listening to her endless talk and nodding..
and by that..you go home happy,your woman is happy,and there ain’t no drama headache.
-Checking Out Women 101 By The Lead Zeppelin-
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Madas Reply:
July 15th, 2009 at 20:10
lol!
this was good information… i did not know that checking women out is an art
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Agreed
Media changes everything 
I don’t knw if these are real numbers or statistics, but if this is the case… then oh boy!
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Why we even have to think of it. it’s human nature as simple as that
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Madas Reply:
July 19th, 2009 at 06:50
Believe me Jad… women think about it… they think about it all the time…
A lot of women feel it is offensive…
We live in a region where women have to compete for everything, including for husband’s affection… which has to be shared with family, other wives, social duties…. so for guys it is natural… for women it is catastrophic
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I don’t think it is ok to pretend to pay attention to the “endlessly” blabbering girl you’re sitting with nor it is an art. It is instict yes, it is uncontrollable mashi, but it’s not something to be taken slightly by girls.
if a guy respects the girl and her company he shouldn’t look at other girls when she’s with him,it’s very humiliating. Men can be trained to behave trust me
now this is the art 
if i was going out with a guy and he was ogling other girls there’d be a big question mark on the relationship and on me.
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If a guy stares at a woman or tries to catch her eye/flirts in front of you-DUMP HIM becasue he is nothing but a nasty pig who is still shopping while he is already dating you.He an *sshole so kick him to the curb and don’t look back.
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I’m totally guilty of checking guys out
I even had two boyfriends once. It’s so wrong, I know, I’m not proud of it, I just loved them both in different ways.
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Madas Reply:
September 11th, 2009 at 19:40
no comment… I have nothing against checking people out… if it was done respectfully and it won’t hurt people’s feelings
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we all men look!we have to admit that even if the girl is ugly and she is wearing a skirt we have to take a look i guess is has to do with instict and hormoons idk it doesnt not means anything most of the time it just a natural reaction it is hard to explain do we deserved to be judge by this natural instict i guess so but i doesnt make us pigs either
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Great Post…. Thanks
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