Comments on: Are Jordanian men intimidated by smart, strong women?

By: Madas

Madas — Mon, 10 Jan 2011 09:03:19 +0000

Thank you for your opinion. I agree with you, Women can enjoy other roles than being mothers and wives…

What if they don’t want to be either? what if they can’t be either? does that make them less women?

By: Likethisthread

Likethisthread — Sun, 09 Jan 2011 16:40:21 +0000

“a man, whatever race he is, wants to feel that he is the man in his house, and the wife should remain as the woman that she should be”.

Jasmin, a wife who works outside of her house sometimes and has other things, besides fulfilling every need of her husband, does not become less of a woman, believe me. Women are allowed to fulfill their dreams and enjoy life the way they find fitting. Yes, being a mother is a great role and that’s what they should give a first priority to, but for the rest we (women) do have a right to have bright and interesting life. That’s my opinion.

By: Madas

Madas — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 12:21:46 +0000

thank you for your comment, I think you are probably right. some men like strong women, but most women don´t and it is mostly cultural, gender roldes and so on.

By: Saed

Saed — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 20:53:47 +0000

Well it really depends on the person. If you’re used to being in power, you would want someone you can have power over, unless you like the idea of someone having power over you. And I’m not talking sexual stuff here. But it’s true. It depends on what each person needs and what completes him, how he was raised, what she/he saw a man/woman as while growing up. And the preference spawns from there.

So think about how most of the Jordanian men were raised.

That’s what I believe.

By: yasmin

yasmin — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 12:07:26 +0000

hey guys,
i find this forum very interesting. well, im asian and im married to a jordanian guy for one year now. i’m 25 and he’s 31. he’s highly educated (i must say he was a geek all throughout his student life), acquired his masters and ph.D abroad, and mashaallah he has a very decent position in his job in a corporate world. i was always amazed by his educational attainment and his professional background, and i feel so lucky and blessed that god has given me a man like him.
the best thing about him being a top-smart guy is that, when he wears his suit going to the office, it seems to me as if he’s someone you can’t approach or joke to, coz he really looks serious and decent that sometimes it would just pop into my mind like ” hey, didn’t i just play xbox with this boy last night? and didn’t he just fart and burped after we ate?” LOL!
on the other hand, i’m also a degree holder and i’ve worked for 3 years before we got married, and since then i just became a fulltime housewife. he told me what he wanted for a wife, someone who would take care of him and his home, and raise his kids the way his mom raised him. i must say that, yes, he’s a momma’s boy, but i have nothing against that ‘coz i admire his mother for raising such a gentleman and a decent man. and mind you, i have to admit that, yes, i’m also a smart and an intelligent woman, even at my young age, though not trying to be conceited or arrogant here, i do have a rich brain on top of my richer heart. i believe that smart girls are attractive to men and the latter do appreciate a lot when she can bring out an intellectual conversation and stir up the man of his mind, not just because of her physical beauty but also her cerebral asset. as far as my observation goes with my husband, i think he’s the type of guy who wants a simple life, a traditional one. he doesn’t want a wife who has her own career, for his reasons that: he wants someone to wake up with him in the morning, prepare his clothes and breakfast before coming to work; wait for him to come back home and have lunch together; maintain a clean and comfortable home; and most importantly, to raise his kids and never depend on getting a housemaid to do so.
because i love my husband very much the way he loves me too, hands down, i obeyed him and i’m very happy and contented being a housewife, a mother, a friend, and a lover to him
so, to sum up my long story, hehehe, i guess it’s a relative case for men on how they see or perceive women who are smart, career-oriented and highly competitive. it’s just a matter of personal needs, priorities, that a man would set his criteria on what kind of woman does he want to marry. not because he is insecure that’s why he doesn’t like a competitive woman. and also not because he’s an egocentric person that he doesn’t want a partner who can overpass him in some other ways. a man, whatever race he is, wants to feel that he is the man in his house, and the wife should remain as the woman that she should be.

By: yasmin

yasmin — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 11:24:45 +0000

test:-)

By: Smartgirlwholovesajordanian

Smartgirlwholovesajordanian — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 05:54:57 +0000

well im an engineer and i met a jordanian/palestinian guy who i just love, hes like the guy you dream about your whole life and dont ever expect to actually meet… and he is proud of my academic achievements etc.. and actually wants me to do a masters degree ..so the theory that they like stupid women is invalid but i guess exists in some cases and has to be based on the individual-however, since we have gotten more serious as in he wants to marry me ASAP he totallllly freaks out if i do anything he doesnt like which is basically anything non submissive like talk with an attitude or argue with him or curse lightly and frankly i dont know if i want to marry him now because of his controlling personality seeing as I am a very fiesty redhead lol who doesnt like fighting but likes expressing myself… marriage is for life and i want someone that i can say how i feel openly to. and fyi i am very knowledgable of islam and the arabic culture and dont do anything bad that most americans do {drink, gamble, premarital sex…i dont even eat pork} but come onnnnn if i want to call a girl a bitch please let me!!!!! bottom line here is (because i know im starting to ramble- its late lol) i think western people are attracted to the values that eastern/mid-eastern people have, i know i am anyways… but their tribal mentality/traditions have trickled through the years and still linger are getting in the way of relationships succeeding like mine and many others. i hear of so many divorces of white women and arabic men after maybe 10 years and its soo sad! and i think the root cause is that we (american women) are soooo used to total and absolute freedom and when we get there we just feel suffocated because its so different. but the arabs shouldnt be the ones labeled as controlling because im sorry but americans need to be less skanky showing off everything all the time, 12 year olds half naked at the mall with no parents… im scared to raise my kids here frankly! so there is a delicate relationship between the two cultures and its a system of give and take i guess.

By: Madas

Madas — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 16:12:25 +0000

Thank you for your comment… let me understand what you are trying to say here… not all men are the same? I already know that i am not sure we disagree… i am not trying to say that men choose quiet types, or that they are intimidated by smart strong women, i am asking a question and different people answer it differently… so it seems like your answer is that men are not… great… thank you for the answer

By: Radi Radi

Radi Radi — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 11:47:11 +0000

I am sorry but I read a few of your posts, and I have to say your argument is unconvincing and the worst I have seen in a while, first you claim Jordanian men look for the quiet shallow and simple types.

I have met that argument time and time again and what women need to realize that different men have different tastes. Just like you thought you needed a provider then decided you needed a friend, a lot of men think they need something then realise they want something else. For every single smart and powerful woman I know, I know at least ten married smart and powerful woman.

Getting to know the facts needs studies and statistics. Let us assume that as many readers agree you are on to something. Allow me to hypothesize, I have heard a huge number of female of doctors, lawyers and engineers saying that they will only get married to a man with “similar or better” qualifications. That immediately cancels 95% of the population.

Marriage in Jordan is a silly little game, I have a MENSA IQ, make 50K a year and am very active on many arenas but some females I know insist that they are intimidating to me because they hold a certain degree.

smart and powerful is sexy and attractive to most men, however arrogant and demanding is what it translates to.

Thanks

By: Madas

Madas — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 17:33:15 +0000

ah well… i am sure not all men are that insecure… but I promise… men are seriously terrified of smart women…