Comments on: His problem is that he does not beat me up! http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2008/08/10/his-problem-is-that-he-does-not-beat-me-up/ Casting the first stone Wed, 08 Feb 2012 14:19:00 +0200 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Madas http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2008/08/10/his-problem-is-that-he-does-not-beat-me-up/comment-page-1/#comment-217744 Madas Mon, 11 Aug 2008 17:02:35 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=264#comment-217744 Hatem, Let me explain what I meant. For me in my understanding of sadism is when someone derives pleasure as a result of inflicting pain on others... I have known Fadi for quite a while now, and i know that he enjoys seeing people squirm... I just looked up what is Sadism in Wikipedia to check what charachteristics apply to this person * Humiliates or demeans people in the presence of others. * Has treated or disciplined someone under his/her control unusually harshly. * Is amused by, or takes pleasure in, the psychological suffering of others (including animals). Which are all things that apply to him.. i suppose this is what i meant :) I don't know about the other part... and honestly i don't want to know :) Hatem,

Let me explain what I meant. For me in my understanding of sadism is when someone derives pleasure as a result of inflicting pain on others… I have known Fadi for quite a while now, and i know that he enjoys seeing people squirm…

I just looked up what is Sadism in Wikipedia to check what charachteristics apply to this person

* Humiliates or demeans people in the presence of others.
* Has treated or disciplined someone under his/her control unusually harshly.
* Is amused by, or takes pleasure in, the psychological suffering of others (including animals).

Which are all things that apply to him.. i suppose this is what i meant :) I don’t know about the other part… and honestly i don’t want to know :)

]]> By: hatem abunimeh http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2008/08/10/his-problem-is-that-he-does-not-beat-me-up/comment-page-1/#comment-217743 hatem abunimeh Mon, 11 Aug 2008 14:39:39 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=264#comment-217743 “He has a streak of sadism” I’m not sure what exactly you meant by the above statement but if it is what I’m thinking about; I hope that the sadistic behavior doesn’t on the long run turn into masochistic one. “He has a streak of sadism”

I’m not sure what exactly you meant by the above statement but if it is what I’m thinking about; I hope that the sadistic behavior doesn’t on the long run turn into masochistic one.

]]> By: Madas http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2008/08/10/his-problem-is-that-he-does-not-beat-me-up/comment-page-1/#comment-217741 Madas Mon, 11 Aug 2008 12:10:23 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=264#comment-217741 Mr. Anonymous, For the lack of a better name... what is surprising is that a lot of people live like that...more people that you imagine... I don't know if it is more his fault.. he said on several occasions when we talked about this.. she lets me do these things to her... if she stopped me from the begining i would not have done these things... i find him repulsive when he says this... but maybe he is right... maybe it is her fault for not imposing respect? I don't know... Mr. Anonymous,

For the lack of a better name… what is surprising is that a lot of people live like that…more people that you imagine…

I don’t know if it is more his fault.. he said on several occasions when we talked about this.. she lets me do these things to her… if she stopped me from the begining i would not have done these things… i find him repulsive when he says this… but maybe he is right… maybe it is her fault for not imposing respect?

I don’t know…

]]> By: mr.anonymous http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2008/08/10/his-problem-is-that-he-does-not-beat-me-up/comment-page-1/#comment-217740 mr.anonymous Mon, 11 Aug 2008 11:52:39 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=264#comment-217740 This is a disturbing hidden abuse,and they live like this every day? I blame it on lack of maturity,each is not respecting their role in the marriage,maybe him more than her. I hope things get better for them,and for all people with these hidden abuses. This is a disturbing hidden abuse,and they live like this every day?
I blame it on lack of maturity,each is not respecting their role in the marriage,maybe him more than her.

I hope things get better for them,and for all people with these hidden abuses.

]]> By: Madas http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2008/08/10/his-problem-is-that-he-does-not-beat-me-up/comment-page-1/#comment-217739 Madas Mon, 11 Aug 2008 05:37:19 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=264#comment-217739 Hey Rose, Thank you for your comment. I guess you are right... it was surprsing to me to see how inncocently clueless my friend was. They both are as a matter of fact. I mean her husband is a nice guy... The thing is that they are so different fromeach other... sometimes i wonder how people don't see things before they get married... i don't get it. Hey Rose,

Thank you for your comment. I guess you are right… it was surprsing to me to see how inncocently clueless my friend was. They both are as a matter of fact. I mean her husband is a nice guy…

The thing is that they are so different fromeach other… sometimes i wonder how people don’t see things before they get married… i don’t get it.

]]> By: Rose Kiplling http://madas.jordanplanet.org/2008/08/10/his-problem-is-that-he-does-not-beat-me-up/comment-page-1/#comment-217736 Rose Kiplling Sun, 10 Aug 2008 18:33:53 +0000 http://madas.jordanplanet.org/?p=264#comment-217736 Hello, I have not visted your site for a long time, I like the new theme. It might be difficult to believe it, but sometimes, people who are in an abusive marriage, just don't see it. and some other times they don't want to see it, because they are afraid of the consequences. Your friend is probably not aware that she is being abused, and even worse she might not be aware that she is abusive herself. It is a vicious cycle. Hello,

I have not visted your site for a long time, I like the new theme. It might be difficult to believe it, but sometimes, people who are in an abusive marriage, just don’t see it. and some other times they don’t want to see it, because they are afraid of the consequences.

Your friend is probably not aware that she is being abused, and even worse she might not be aware that she is abusive herself. It is a vicious cycle.

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