Men and Their fear of Commitment!
While S. has been having serious problems with her ultra cool boyfriend’ fits of a severe cough, fever and allergy! (Kind of reminds me of my dad, when he heard a boy’s name mentioned when we were younger! Maybe this is men’s reaction whenever trapped in a corner?… just a thought ) … Whenever the word commitment is hinted. J has been having serious problems with her fiancé of two years, wanting her to leave her glorious career and dedicate the coming 10 years to have 4 children in 4 or 5 years maximum!! This paradox got the three of us on a discussion about men and the way they view commitment!
Men and women view commitment from different angles… while we play bride and groom with our bad kid neighbor since very early childhood… I am kidding! with our dolls I wanted to say but this seemed more like fun… anyway… we grow up thinking a beautiful house, a nice loving husband that makes all our mean high school girl friends jealous and a bunch of adorable kids running around… we think of commitment as an achievement, as security as safety and as a revenge from every girl who was bad to us! As a fulfillment of all these dreams that are rooted very deeply in us… well obviously society plays a major role here.
Men on the other hand see commitment as something quite different. To men, commitment means goodbye to freedom! A man has only one choice when he leaves school go to work and become successful.. He can’t just “leave and sit home” when he is married. He has to think about his wife and children. Thus, when a man thinks of commitment, he sees a lifetime of struggle and expectations… And with the high materialistic demands girls have been putting on guys… Nah… I don’t think so!
I had to look in the psyche of caveman to understand this instinctive fear of commitment ultra cool boyfriend , yet this amazing desire to reproduce the demanding fiancé , and true to my expectations we have an answer…
Ok, this is crude, but it is also interesting. Cavemen were polygamist… Polygamy was a survival mechanism… they had to spread their seeds in order for the human race to survive, more women had to have more children…so they slept around…. This instinct that pushed men away from commitment which is monogamy, towards polygamy is what is giving the boyfriend the fever… it is a deeply rooted instinct! But since the world has changed, and civilization prevailed and men no longer can get away with this as an excuse… the very same instinct is what pushes the fiancé to want children thus commitment!
What does that mean? Commitment for men means fewer opportunities to have sex which means fewer opportunities to spreading the seeds… but while on the one hand for social, religious, ethical simply love! Men chose to be monogamist I am cutting you slack guys and on the other hand, they are still controlled by this instinct to survive and to reproduce… they chose to get married and have as many children as fast as possible! Hoping they will have many chances to spread the seed with their wives!
Interesting. No?
MEN SUCKS
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Nader
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yee i meant sth funny with (S) letter, ahh nevermind
Nader again
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You generalize. I disagree.
On the other hand I have told some of my female friends that the only “perfect man” on earth was taken.
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this was iyas
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Of course it is a generalization…There is not one rule in the world that applies to everyone…We are so intersting that there is always exception to the rules (for some odd reason, I remembered all those troublesom frech classes!)
But Iyas i would really really really like to hear your view point on men's fear of commitment…
and actually i guessed it was you, who has the audacity to declare to the world he is the perfect man, except for the one and only Iyas?
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Come on Nader… not all… some of them are really really nice…at least i know a few who are!
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wow Iyas, you're becoming a trademark. I also guessed it was you
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and that was Roba… hadol Livepad willa typepad willa whatever need to do something about their commenting system..
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i second that.
Roba
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LIVE JOURNAL ya Roba… LIVE JOURNAL! actually they try to make you smarter… because after a while, you develop your own way to recognize who said what… but dont take it as an excuse not to sign
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LoooooL MAriam, I was sitting in the ED with my supervisor, la shaghleh wala 3amleh ga3deen benkesh thobban, and I was telling him how much I feel free because I'm single and how I can concentrate on my work because I'm single, then I opened your blog and I've read this article and started laughing.
Yes for I don't want to get married because it will limit my freedom and will be a barrier into better achievement at work. For others it's no problem but for me it will cause a lot of problems, biddeesh atjawazz hassa.
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I thought there is some sense in my theory!
Actually i understand that very well… I think if women are not tied with biological time, they would probably feel the same way. Well.. and the concept of age changes the more you grow up… so you will always think of yourself young and think… hmmm I still have time. so my friend enjoy your freedom while it lasts!
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