Strict parents- results of the poll!
In a recent poll, Jordan planet has done about young getting in trouble , I thought the results were really interesting. 38% thought that parents are too easy, 29% thought that parents are too strict… and 10% thought that parents have no effect at all on our behavior!
I have always thought that my parents were very strict, and when i talk to younger ladies, they always complain that their parents are too strict. In Jordan, we are generally more receptive to strict parents than in other cultures as we have seen. Obviously it has to do with our culture, where strict parenting could in fact be taken as a sign of love and a definite sign of care and protection, especially for girls.
The teen years should be a time in which the reins of responsibility are passed from parent to child. In the early teen years, parents have a right to have their opinions prevail, simply because a person at that stage does not have the social skills or maturity to handle many pressures. As young people progress through the teen years, they should be ready to accept more and more responsibility, so that by the age of 18, they should be totally making their personal decisions… Which is something most probably does not apply in our society. As parents do no loosen their iron hand till we are married!Which is one of the main reasons why girls get married early, they feel they will gain their freedom once they are married!
On the other hand, parents need to set limits because children require structure and boundaries, so they grow up to be adults with good morals and values. As kids we always think our parents are too strict but in the long run we realize why they were and we also realize we are happy we turned out the way we did. Actually a research has shown that the number of child crime has increased a lot in recent years because parents treat their children as their friends and not as their children!
So to all my younger friends… if you think your parents are strict, dont be upset, it is actually ok… maybe you should talk to them reasonably, because once they feel you are mature, the iron hand gets loose! I am an example of this… In my family we used to have meetings where we all come to the meeting with ideas and things we would like to change or discuss. My parents believed that if my sisters and brothers and I help to set up the boundaries and give our opinions about certain issues than we are more likely to follow the rules, which were actually good rules, because by discussions we got them to compromise on a lot of things.