Women Social Rules
I had a very interesting evening Wednesday evening. I went out with a new group of people. I knew one guy Y. I met him twice through his work in kerak. He is responsible for the kerak project from which we thought of choosing four ladies for our project. (I will give an idea about this project in my next entry, I promise!). Y. has helped us get support and approval from the ministry of tourism for our project, and to celebrate this victory, we decided to get all the people involved to go out. I did not want to go alone, and so I asked hania to come with me.
Anyone who knows me would know how much I ADORE public scenes, especially if it was me or someone I know involved. Hania showed up after 10 minutes, and she said hello to the people on the table. Somehow people got mixed up and thought, Hania came with one young lady on the table and could not connect her to me. In a split of a second an understanding passed between hania and this lady and they created a scene! They started pretending that Hania stole this lady’s 12 year long boyfriend and the love of her life. Obviously it is an old story, since Hania has been married for the last 3 years, but the bad feeling were still there! The girl asked Hania, ahh you did not tell your sisters about what you have done? Hania answered that it is part of the past, and that there is no need for them not to be civilized to each other or to hurt each other, the girl answered, “you can’t hurt me because you have already hurt me enough and hania took the knife from in front of the girl and said, yeah, I can’t hurt you but I don’t know what you are capable of!.” They both acted so well, the anger part, the trying to be civilized part, the bitchiness part. I totally believed it and was GREEN!( have you ever seen a green person?)
Obviously, we instantly liked each other very much, which is a very unusual case in women meeting women scenario in Amman. It was so interesting that this phenomenon dominated the conversation of the evening.
Women in Amman have unspoken rules that everyone follows religiously. The main problem here is that there is a very high demand for single guys because mostly guys that belong to a certain class don’t stay here, they are working abroad, but most of the girls from this same social circle are living here. This, alongside with the fact that Amman is a very small place, makes the chances of meeting the “right guy” from very difficult to nil!. All these women managed, collectively, to come up with a set of rules that protects each one’s area. Just like the way lions pee around their territory so that everyone knows this is the lion’s area and KEEP OUT!
For example, everyone belongs to a group here, and women are so possessive about the group they belong to. The biggest Faux pas is to get introduced to a group through one of the single guys there, what will happen? You will get the dirtiest looks you imagine from every direction, your clothes will be trashed, your make up will become vulgar, your unpedicured toes will be highlighted and any very well kept history will be out in the open in the matter of hours! Don’t forget everyone would know someone who knows someone who happened to know about your hidden secret!
Another advise, Don’t ever ever and i mean EVER commit the stupid mistake of asking a girl to take you with her to one of the gatherings of her group, especially if it is the Christmas or Eid event, New Year or any other important event. Because you will get a very bitchy NOO! accompanied with a disgusted look. But in all cases If you are not blond and don’t have straight hair, and don’t like to wear the short pants (3 quarters) you have nothing to worry about because you are uncool!
God,Sometimes I just love being married!